Saturday, August 27, 2011

The Four Absolutes


Forward to the Four Absolutes. 

Spelled out as such, the Four Absolutes are not a formal part of our AA philosophy of life. Since this is true, some may claim the Absolutes should be ignored. This premise is approximately as sound as it would be to suggest that the Holy Bible should be scuttled.

The Absolutes were borrowed from the Oxford Group Movement back in the days when our society was in its humble beginning. In those days our founders and their early colleagues were earnestly seeking for any and all sources of help to define and formulate suggestions that might guide us in the pursuit of a useful, happy, and significant sober life.

Because the Absolutes are not specifically repeated in our Steps or Traditions, some of us are inclined to forget them. Yet in many old time groups where the solid spirit of our fellowship is so strongly exemplified, the Absolutes receive frequent mention. Indeed, you often find a set of old placards, carefully preserved, which are trotted out for prominent display each meeting night.

There could be unanimity on the proposition that living our way of life must include not only an awareness of the Absolutes, but a constant striving toward greater achievement in the qualities that they represent. Many who have lost the precious gift of sobriety would ascribe it to carelessness in seeking these objectives. If you will revisit the Twelve Steps with care, you will find the Four Absolutes form a thread, which is discernible in a sober life of quality, every step of the glorious journey.

Friday, August 26, 2011

1940 AA Preamble

Due to my workload, I've not been able to create a decent post for the past couple of days, so I'll share this from Silkworth.net, it's part of the history of AA...

1940 AA Preamble

We are gathered here because we are faced with the fact that we are powerless over alcohol and unable to do anything about it without the help of a Power greater than ourselves.

We feel that each person's religious views, if any, are his own affair. The simple purpose of the program of Alcoholics Anonymous is to show what may be done to enlist the aid of a Power greater than ourselves regardless of what our individual conception of that Power may be.

In order to form a habit of depending upon and referring all we do to that Power, we must at first apply ourselves with some diligence. By often repeating these acts, they become habitual and the help rendered becomes natural to us.

We have all come to know that as alcoholics we are suffering from a serious illness for which medicine has no cure.

Our condition may be the result of an allergy which makes us different from other people. It has never been by any treatment with which we are familiar, permanently cured. The only relief we have to offer is absolute abstinence, the second meaning of A.A.

There are no dues or fees. The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking. Each member squares his debt by helping others to recover.

An Alcoholics Anonymous is an alcoholic who through application and adherence to the A.A. program has forsworn the use of any and all alcoholic beverage in any form.

The moment he takes so much as one drop of beer, wine, spirits or any other alcoholic beverage he automatically loses all status as a member of Alcoholics Anonymous.

A.A. is not interested in sobering up drunks who are not sincere in their desire to remain sober for all time. Not being reformers, we offer our experience only to those who want it.

We have a way out on which we can absolutely agree and on which we can join in harmonious action. Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our program. Those who do not recover are people who will not or simply cannot give themselves to this simple program. Now you may like this program or you may not, but the fact remains, it works. It is our only chance to recover.

There is a vast amount of fun in the A.A. fellowship. Some people might be shocked at our seeming worldliness and levity but just underneath there lies a deadly earnestness and a full realization that we must put first things first and with each of us the first thing is our alcoholic problem. To drink is to die. Faith must work twenty-four hours a day in and through us or we perish.

In order to set our tone for this meeting I ask that we bow our heads in a few moments of silent prayer and meditation. I wish to remind you that whatever is said at this meeting expresses our own individual opinion as of today and as of up to this moment.

We do not speak for A.A. as a whole and you are free to agree or disagree as you see fit, in fact, it is suggested that you pay no attention to anything which might not be reconciled with what is in the A.A. Big Book.

If you don't have a Big Book, it's time you bought you one. Read it, study it, live with it, loan it, scatter it, and then learn from it what it means to be an A.A.

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Wednesday, August 24, 2011

Seriously? God?

I do not believe in the God of theology who rewards good and punishes evil.-  Albert Einstein

The 12 step program that I'm familiar with, speaks of a spiritual program, and spiritual progress, while leaving it to the individual to make up their own mind, and find their own God and worship him (or her :P) in their own way.  

This is of such importance to the survival of the program, and the groups.  Freedom to think and to worship in the manner that the individuals concience dictates. 

This does not mean, that we're allowed to put down how others think or worship. This means tolerance for other's belief systems. OR Tolerance and understanding for someone who doesn't think that there is a God.  They simply just can't wrap their head around that idea.  That's OK!!  They just need a spark of faith that there's something bigger then them, and their home group can be that higher power.  It's that simple. Live and let live.

There's line from a healthy exchange of ideas, to trying to convince someone else that they're wrong, and you're right. 

Churches are made up of people, people are not perfect. We certainly are not.  

How many meetings are in a church basement? How many Clergy helped get AA on it's feet and going in the right direction? We should forever be grateful to them. 


Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.
- Mother Teresa



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Monday, August 22, 2011

Greatest Enemies.. Resentment, Jealousy, Envy, Frustration, and Fear.


Anger will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in the mind. Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of resentment are forgotten.
-  Buddhist Quote
The greatest enemies of us alcoholics are resentment, jealousy, envy, frustration, and fear. - Page 145, The Big Book of AA
I admit. I get angry, I get resentful. It must be due to fear. But of what? The Fear to succeed? To Fail? To Help someone else? Fear of loosing time? And to do what?  So I can have the time to envy someone else?

BAH!

The committee in one's head is a circus, that needs to be ignored at times.

It's times like this, is where I just need to take a mental time out, and back away from what ever it is that is making my blood pressure rise.  If possible, distract myself with some of natures beauty or book, or music.  Or sit quietly.

If I've acted poorly towards someone, usually someone close to me, I need to make amends.
If only I could only NOT get some steam built up with these things.. I pray I get better!

Photo Credit: william john butler 

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Sunday, August 21, 2011

You've got a nice and cozy Pile there.

It is only a step from boredom to disillusionment, which leads naturally to self-pity, which in turn ends in chaos.
  -  Manly Hall
Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate. - Page 62 of Alcoholic's Anonymous 
Drunks like to party. Right? Why not a nice little pity party? It's warm and cozy. Never mind the smell of it, it's just so warm and cozy.  But the odds are, we've done something to place ourselves to get run-over, or maybe WE played a part in our own situation, and just haven't seen it yet.

This can be a hard thing to admit. It's humbling.  We have to turn to our higher power for advice, that once still small voice of reason that's beginning to get so LOUD...

Let's not forget today, what part that I've played in things... 


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